Why My Marriage is so Wonderful

Lyle and I have been married 13 years.  That isn't a very long time in the big scheme of things, but in today's world, on the other hand, 13 years can be described as a huge success story.  I believe it's the latter.  I want to explain why I think our marriage is successful.

Lyle and I were older when we got married.  We both had been married before and had a child from those marriages.  We understood where we had gone wrong in our other marriages.  We took the time to actually discuss our previous marriages and what we contributed that was not good.  We talked openly about what we discovered about ourselves and what we really wanted in a relationship.

Our discussions revealed that we wanted to be free to have opinions and feelings that didn't necessarily always match our mate's.  We agreed that we wanted to feel valued and respected. Neither of us ever wanted to feel that we had to hide our feelings from the other.  We understood that even though we love each other deeply, that we are still individuals with our own particular needs and quirks.

Now all that sounds like it was very dramatic.  Of course, these things were said during normal conversation and sometimes over drinks.  Our love for each other just deepens with each passing year.  We can't wait to see each other at the end of the day.  That doesn't mean that we don't enjoy doing our own thing.  We do.  I spend time with my BFF, Anne.  We shop and go out to eat.  We giggle and act like silly girls.  Lyle enjoys going to the movies with his BFF, Rob and playing golf and going fishing with his buddies and he loves going to the Nascar races.  We also love doing a lot of things together.  We golf, fish, dog shows and love dinners out.

Lyle is sweet, patient and kind.  He's math whiz and can make anything out of wood or metal.  I can tell, he just wants to make me happy.  He takes great care to do many things for me.  He cooks a lot.  I have Lupus and he goes out of his way to make sure I am not struggling with lifting, bending and opening stuff.

I have a huge sense of humor and can tell a good story or joke.  Poor Lyle just doesn't have any comedic timing.  We make fun of him.  He makes fun of me about forgetting things.  He swears that he won't spend any money on nursing homes.  He is going to drop me off at the mall every morning.  He says what better and its free.  The mall is heated and cooled.  It has bathrooms conveniently located.  Has a nice variety of food at the food court and lots of people to talk to.  He says I can find a good place to sit in a comfy chair.
Cheaper and more fun for me.  See, he's always thinking of my happiness.  LOL

We love each other.  We love each other.  We love each other.  I simply adore him!